It Makes The World Go Round

Painting done by aunt. I was reading an article in the LA Times this morning about brains and relationships. It said that one of the reasons relationships last is that "long-term couples don't update their images of each other." They stick with their initial view and don't update as they get older and less attractive.

Isn't that great? So when husband says I look beautiful, I do to him - he sees me with eyes of love and I still see the man that won my heart when I look at him. And think about it - seeing someone as they were and knowing them as they are. Perfect.

We had a former neighbor visit today. They took California profits with them to Oklahoma and bought the home of their dreams - only it's in Oklahoma. Not that there's anything wrong with that. He told her that if she wasn't happy there they could always come back but realistically she knows that's not an option. Her family is here and she comes out to visit as often as she can. The trip today was because they'd learned about husband's bladder cancer and wanted to offer support. Where would we be without friends - they lighten our load. Okay, now I'm being silly but differences between male and female friendships? Male: many hands make light work. Female: Too many cooks spoil the broth. Just kidding. I get confused with those things anyway and never know if the squeaky wheel gets the grease or gets replaced.

Husband's best friend in Montana called yesterday and said his surgeon would perform the surgery needed if husband wanted a new bladder created out of his intestine. Husband thanked him but said no. He could have the surgery if he wanted to go to LA but he has decided to keep the surgeon he has and go with his recommendation. Just take the bladder out, wear a bag and hope that's it.

We should be hearing from the lab later today or tomorrow to find out when they are ready for his CT-scan. Bone scan, August 14th. Then - operation.

Re love and relationships? More tomorrow.